I learned a new word, deference. Respectful or courteous regard or not allowing in moderation what others excuse to excess.
Jesus demonstrated deference by paying taxes Matthew 17:25-27 and taught deference to children instead of dominance, Matthew 18:3-6.
When he allowed Lot to choose the most desired, well-watered land, Abraham showed deference, Genesis 13. Altough Abraham could have been offended at Lot's seeming greed, he humbly accepted the decision. “Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them,” Psalm 119:165. As we know, Lot's choice didn't turn out so well. Abraham understood the command to humbly defer at the proper times and that it wasn't a sign of weakness. Abraham was not easily offended, because he understood that God uses seeming trial and tragedy to accomplish His purposes in our lives. The family and wealth of Lot were soon severely diminished and even destroyed, while Abraham increased to more than the sands of the sea.
